This is a feeling I’ve had before, but I’m going to put down for the first time (I think it’s the first time at least). The incongruity between what people say, and what they end up doing. I find this a lot when looking for a relationship, like, she says she doesn’t want to be in a relationship because the last one she was in ended badly. Or she can’t end up with me as her culture forbids it. Or she figures she probably won’t end up with anyone anyway…. etc etc. The thing I find true about all of these statements, is that when someone truly worthwhile comes along, all those rules (or lies, which makes the whole confusion disappear of course) drop away. I also find that I am never the one for whom the ‘rule’ is broken.

Once in a while, but only once in a while mind you, I think it would be refreshing to experience something genuine.